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Sunday, February 27, 2011

Berlin "sex academy" offers tips for visitors

Berlin "sex academy" offers tips for visitors

Mannequins wait for the next step in production at Fusion Specialties in Broomfield, Colorado April 28, 2009.

Wannabe Latin lovers can improve their technique by playing with the erogenous zones of naked mannequins at a new interactive exhibition that has now opened in Berlin.

The "Amora sex academy" that opened in Berlin on Thursday welcomes visitors with the wry slogan, "Finally -- an exhibition for those who always have to touch everything."

More than 50 interactive displays guide visitors through the intimate areas of the male and female bodies, offering helpful tips on everything from striptease to oral sex and how to achieve a perfect orgasm.

"A lot of couples come in here together to learn something," said Uta Barkow, the manager of the Beate Uhse sex chain which is hosting the academy. "It's been very well received so far. A lot of exhibits have that 'aha' effect on a lot of people."

The show features several life-sized plastic models, naked and in various positions. One female mannequin light ups when touched in the right spot. A voice shrieks "That's it!" when the visitor manages to put his finger on the elusive G-spot.

Next to it is what the museum called its "Spank-o-meter." It measures the level of pleasure a mannequin receives when spanked with a leather whip.

"So far we've had just as many women in here as men," Barkow said. "Women coming in tend to have fewer inhibitions while the men tend to be a bit more embarassed."

The museum also shows film clips of various sexual positions, including the "Italian chandelier" that the viewer learns can burn up to 920 calories per hour.

Founded by Frenchman Johan Rizki, the sex academy opened in London earlier this year and is also due to come to Barcelona.
source: reuters
posted on 7/12/09

10 tips for better sex


A good sex life takes time and effort to maintain. It won’t always be easy -- our busy lives are taxing and often leave us tired and devoid of the imagination and motivation required to keep up the pace. Having good sex doesn’t necessarily mean spending hours and hours of frolicking, it can be as simple as doing something a little different just for a change.

10 tips for better sex
Women are cyclic creatures, and her sex drive will vary depending on her hormones and what’s going on in her life. Sometimes it takes a bit longer to get her hot and the same-old song and dance may not be enough. This applies to you too.

Therefore, it's important to add a few more stimulating aspects to your sex life to keep things interesting.

Here are 10 tips for better sex, which should keep the two of you hot for some time to come.
Number 10
Blindfold her
Sexual pleasure has many dimensions, but the most important sexual organ we have is our brain. When one sense is hindered, our other senses -- via the brain -- clamor to compensate. For example, a deaf person has increased sensory awareness -- sight, smell, touch, and vibrations. For No. 10 entry on our 10 tips for better sex guide, we're telling you that you can tap into this innate ability of ours and use it to your advantage: Blindfolding your partner increases her sensory awareness. She doesn’t know where you are or what you are going to do next. This creates anticipation for better sex -- the tease. Tease her mercilessly with sensory objects, such as a feather or your tongue. Start off softly, as this excites her nerve endings and makes them far more sensitive. Be careful not to overstimulate the nerve endings, however, because after a while the neurons stop firing with such intensity and the sensation becomes null and void.
Number 9
Give her instructions
After a while you may think you know how to please your partner in every way, but this is very rarely true. There is always something you haven’t tried, and there is bound to be something one of you always does that could be done differently.

To combat this for better sex, have a lesson session in which you don’t think you know it all, and are at each other's mercy as teacher. Talk about things you haven’t tried, but would like to, then choose one suggestion from each partner, and get down and dirty. We often get caught thinking we know what our partners like, and after a while it becomes "the way it’s done." Lose this myth and put yourself in the student's chair for a while for better sex you won't regret.
Number 8
Massage
Sensual touch is one of the most highly relaxing and sexy things you can do for your partner, which is why it makes it onto our 10 tips for better sex list. Our bodies are almost without exception tense in some area, if not many areas. This hinders our energy flow -- including sexual energy flow. Imagine a car that has a clogged fuel filter: the fuel (our energy) can’t get to where it needs to go quickly and smoothly, and the car performs inefficiently and ineffectively.

A relaxing sensual massage can unlock her body to some very intense orgasms and much better sex in the end. The ability to relax your partner in this way should be high on your list of skills to master. The same goes for her: The difference between a deeply relaxing massage and a sensual massage is in the manner of touch -- you don’t want to relax her too deeply because she will probably fall straight to sleep.

The key to better sex in this case is to keep her senses alert, but her body relaxed. This means a firm touch, coupled with some sensory feather-light caresses. Once you've relaxed her major muscles -- shoulders and back -- work your way down to her buttocks. Strokes can then start to wander near to, but not on, her inner thighs, butt crease and vagina. Don’t forget her hands and feet -- there are thousands of nerve endings in our hands and feet that are very sensitive to touch. If you have no idea what a good massage feels like or how to perform one, spend some time in "lesson time" with your partner and learn what you both like or just run your hands all over her body -- all over. Don’t skip to the hot spots or you’ll ruin the effect.
Number 7
Have her dress up
Pretending to be something you're not comes easily to some people. However, it has its benefits when done for fun. Stepping out of the role of being "yourself" can be a fun way to give each other permission to behave differently for better sex. Playing the role of someone else during sexual play is a very enjoyable way to give your partner some different sensations, and try things that you haven’t done before. Role playing is a great way to have better sex and to have fun with your partner in a light-hearted but sexy way. It is often the woman who does the dressing up simply because A) They enjoy it; and B) They have the resources of clothes, underwear and makeup -- but don't forget that you can play too..
Number 6
Tell her your fantasies
Talking about your fantasies with your partner is a very conducive form of sex play. It increases communication with your partner, which is of great importance, as well, it also helps you get to know each other better for better sex. Yes, you may be surprised by what comes out of her mouth, but this works both ways. Keep it light at first and don’t throw her in the deep end with fantasies about people you both know or reveal fetishes you aren't sure about. Sit back with a glass of wine and keep your clothes on -- for now. Fantasy play can also be incorporated into a game for better sex. Use your imagination, and keep it sexy. Take it in turns and see where it leads you.
Number 5
Play a game
Get a pack of cards and play strip poker for better sex. It may seem like something you would have done when you were in high school (given the opportunity), but adult strip poker is a good way to get naked. Once you are both naked (or nearly naked), you can start on the really fun part: A loss means the other person gets to choose what action is performed on them by the loser. Time limits like one minute on said action means that it is a prolonged game of seduction, which by the end will have you both clamoring to be both the winner and the loser. There are many other games you can play "strip" to, as long as there is regular winner and loser to reward and punish respectively. The great part about these games is that you can both ask the other person to do something in a certain way that you may not necessarily have ever done before. It can get rather filthy, and definitely lead to better sex in the end.
Number 4
Dirty talk
Talking dirty has turned people on for millennia and will continue to do so because it has something other sex play doesn’t: words. Because our brains are our largest sexual apparatus, we respond to the spoken word automatically -- especially when someone says our name. The spoken word evokes emotions, sensations and blood flow to various regions, depending on the topic.

This works very much in your favor when it comes to talking dirty to your lover because women are especially susceptible to what goes in their ears (and I don’t mean cotton buds or ear candles). Talking dirty is, however, an art form and when done badly can result in fits of giggles (which, lets face it, ain't so bad but isn't quite the goal here). Don’t let this deter you.
Number 3
Try a new position
You already know how to bring her to orgasm in two ways (probably). You repeat these regularly because they work -- there's no harm in that. However, if you never, ever try any new positions again, how will you ever know? New positions need a reasonably high level of arousal in your lover, so choose your time to strike a new pose when she is quite obviously feeling very randy.

There is no limit to the number of ways to have sex, so you can use your imagination and come up with as many weird and wonderful inventions as you desire. Simply changing locations can dramatically change the position, so consider this too (for example on top of the washing machine, on a bench, beanbag or table).
Number 2
Use a cock ring
Cock rings slow the drain of blood out of your erection, and keep you harder for longer. A very hard penis stimulates a woman’s insides slightly differently -- and much better -- than one that is getting soft around the edges. Cock rings are inexpensive and usually nice to look at, and make an interesting male sex toy to add to your collection. Cock rings ensure that you can maintain the pace without faltering for better sex. This is very pleasing to your lady friend.
Number 1
Try a new place
Sex in a new locale is definitely up there in exciting things to do for better sex. You can take a drive somewhere secluded where you can get a bit risqué. Try a public place (not too public) or simply move to a different room or area in your home -- or even someone else’s home. Whatever tickles your fancy. There are a million and one different places to have sex other than your home, in your bed -- use them.
increase your pleasure
The list of helpful hints you have been presented with equates to a very good head start to a better sex life. The time and energy required to plan your adventures will pay off immediately, but also over the longer term. You will be rewarded according to the effort you put in with a great new skill set, and of course better sex. Make time, conserve some energy for it and relax. Life is short!
source: askmen

The Benefits of Developing Concentration:

The Benefits of Developing Concentration:

• Control of thoughts

• Peace of mind

• Self-confidence

• Inner strength

• Will power

• The ability to focus your mind

• Better memory

• The ability to decide and carry on your decisions

• Better functioning in daily life, whether at home or work

• The ability to study and comprehend more quickly

• Stop being carried away with every passing thought

• Freedom from needless and annoying thoughts

• Think when you want to, about what you want to think

• Inner happiness

• Help in developing psychic abilities

• More powerful and efficient creative visualisations and guided imagination

• True meditation

• Spiritual enlightenment

Put your whole attention into the exercises. Do not think about anything else. Be careful not to fall asleep, daydream or think about other matters. The moment you find yourself thinking about something else, stop the exercise and start again. When you become proficient, lengthen the time and, if possible, include another session in the afternoon. Do not attempt too much at the start. You may think the exercises are too simple and easy and try to perform them all at once. Go slowly, do not overdo or tense you brain. Try to reach perfection before you move on to next exercise.

If you find it too difficult, or thoughts distract you and make you think about other matters, do not worry. Everyone encounters difficulties along the way. The successful ones are those who go on and never give up. If you persist in spite of difficulties and disturbances, success will crown your efforts.

Salute to women pioneers : March 8: Women's Day Special

Power of pen: One of the renowned novelist of India. Shobaa De is often called India's Jackie Collins. She has left the mark with her writing skills among the readers. The socialite has account of works like 'Speedpost', 'Starry Nights', 'Spouse' and many more to her credit.


Time to celebrate: Sushmita Sen former Miss Universe 1994 and Aishwarya Rai former Miss World 1994 made the country proud after wining their respective titles.

Winning moment: Sushmita Sen left the whole universe spellbound when she clinched the Ms. Universe crown in 1994. A well-known Bollywood actress, and a single mother of an adopted girl child Renee. Sushmita likes to pen down poetry in her spare time.

World at her feet: Aishwarya Rai Bachchan is an internationally renowned Indian actress. Before starting her acting career, she gained fame and won acccolades for the country after winning the Miss World contest in 1994. Last year got married to Abhishek Bachchan of the famous Bachchan clan of Bollywood, Aish has another feather in her cap being a "Bachchan Bahu".
Glorious glory: Priyanka Chopra made the nation proud when she was crowned Miss World in 2000. She became the fifth Indian woman to win the title, and the fourth Indian woman to win in a span of seven years. Priyanka later went on to deliver commercial success with films like 'Mujhse Shaadi Karogi', 'Krrish' and 'Don', establishing herself as a popular actress.


Big achiever: Shilpa Shetty started her filmi career with Baazigar. Her big success came after taking part in the British Celebrity 'Big Brother' TV show in 2007, Shetty was crowned the winner with 63% of the final vote. She has been recognized as a global figure since then. On her agenda next, is a cookery book titled 'Soul Curry' and role of Sita in Uru Patel's international venture 'Hanuman.'


Smile of victory: Lara Dutta was crowned Femina Miss India Universe. She brought laurels to the country by winning Miss Universe in 2000. Lara is a renowned bollywood actress and also UNFPA Goodwill Ambassador.

Musical maestro: Asha Bhosle is a best known as a Bollywood playback singer, although she has a much wider repertoire. Her career started in 1943 and has spanned over six decades. She has done playback singing for over 950 Bollywood movies. She is believed to have sung over 12,000 songs
On cloud 9: Kalpana Chawla was an Indian-American astronaut and space shuttle mission specialist. She was one of seven crew members killed in the Space Shuttle Columbia disaster. She was the first Indian-born woman and the second person of Indian origin to fly in space, following cosmonaut Rakesh Sharma
Bold lady: Kiran Bedi is a social activist and a retired IPS. She became the first woman to join the Indian Police Service in 1972, and was last posted as Director General , Bureau of Police Research and Development, Ministry of Home Affairs. During her service, she also remained the Inspector General Prisons of Tihar Jail, - one of world's largest prison and her prison reforms policies lead to her winning, the 1994 Ramon Magsaysay Award

The art of 'outercourse' to spice up sex life!

The art of 'outercourse' to spice up sex life!


People who do not want to go all the way to sexual intercourse can still be more sexual, more intimate, and even more orgasmic with their lover, thanks to what sex experts call an 'outercourse'.

Whether you''re seeking to abstain, practice safer sex or spice things up, the red hot sexual exchanges involved are well worth exploring.

Outercourse is the umbrella term for any kind of sex play that doesn't involve oral or traditional sex, but still manages to offer sexual gratification for lovers involved in the act.

It''s ideal in minimising the spread of sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) and the risk of pregnancy, reports Fox News.

However, the method is not completely foolproof, as it depends on how much clothing people keep on.

Outercourse allows lovemaking to last longer, and couples are given the opportunity to soak in more of what the sexual experience is about.

Partners may feel closer and more connected with each other and themselves, while for new lovers, it allows them to build trust while feeling sexually connected.

For older, experienced lovers, outercourse can hurl them back in time, helping them to reclaim the thrill of the forbidden nature of sex.

Outercourse embodies a number of sexual activities, including:

Erotic talk -- Whether in the boudoir, over the phone, via text or online, lovers can catapult each other to a carnal cosmos with some lascivious lingo.

Sensual storytelling -- Between reading sexy stories and looking at erotica, lovers can entertain themselves for hours while playing with their own hot spots.

Role-playing -- By sharing fantasies, lovers can pick and choose their preferred real-life passion pursuits.

Erotic massage -- Lovers work every part of the body with scintillating sexual touch.

Kissing -- Suck face and grope each other like teenagers, eventually showering your lover's entire body with kisses.

Cybersex -- Via instant messaging, e-mail, Internet chatrooms, or cyberspace forums, lovers can have tech sex of all types. Maximum satisfaction is realised in how much you choose to touch yourself versus your keyboard.

Strip Teases -- Give your lover his or her own private viewing, being sure to conclude your routine with some lush lip action and titillating touches.

Sexual enhancement products -- Sex toys were practically made for outercourse. Offering variety, experimentation, and hours of entertainment, lovers can explore each other's bodies as they tap all of their senses.

Mutual masturbation -- Pleasure yourself for your partner's pleasure or erotically massage each other's bodies at the same time or take turns stimulating the other.

Dry sex -- Lovers can rub up against each other to no end, stimulating each other into oblivion.

Water works -- Taking to a bath or shower allows for the perfect post-rub down.

The details on outercourse are available in Dr Yvonne K Fulbright's book Touch Me There! A Hands-On Guide to Your Orgasmic Hot Spots.


source: rediff

Dating 101: The Five Biggest First-Date Turnoffs

Richa Gangopadhyay
Dating 101: The Five Biggest First-Date Turnoffs

Everyone reads too much into things at the beginning of a relationship. Even the dude who pretends he couldn't be more casual. It's natural -- we're trying to mind-read our dates, gauge intentions, figure out if our new flame would rather be doing her nails than listening to our college stories during a nice night out on the town. So you have to be careful with us guys -- even though we pretend not to be so sensitive -- and realize what signal you're sending.
Here are five that say: I really really like you... for anyone else but me.
More on Dating from Glamour:

* Five Secrets All Guys Keep From You
* Seven Things a Guy's Bedroom Says About Him

1. The Coffee Invite
"Let's totally have coffee at 2:15 on Wednesday!" Coffee? On a weekday? At such a precise time? That's when you meet your friend's little sister who wants to ask you for career advice.
2. The Group Invite
"Me and a bunch of my friends are going to be at XX bar, why don't you stop by?" When we hear that you're bringing your friends along, we assume you don't want to be alone with us.
3. The Inappropriate Attire
"I just came from the gym." It's no problem if you don't dress like you're on your way to accept the academy award for best actress, but if you're wearing sweatpants, we're assuming you don't want us to think about you in any sensual way.
4. The Excuse Caused by Your Insecurity
"I'm soooooo tired." This is the absolute worst. I've had women say that to me when they've actually been interested and later admit that they were just worried that they seemed boring and were making an excuse. But what we hear is: I'm laying the groundwork to go home as soon as possible.
5. The Outpouring About Your Ex
"I'm just getting out of a really intense relationship." We don't care if this is true, and we know that even people just emerging from coupledom can get involved with new people. But we don't want to spend our first moments alone together hearing about how intense your old relationship was. Not the mental picture that makes us giddy.

The Six Super Foods Every Woman Needs



The Six Super Foods Every Woman Needs
The foods you really need to stay you healthy and strong
From the food pyramid to the Internet to your local bookstore, there is certainly no shortage of advice on nutrition and healthy eating. But with all the media hype surrounding many “health foods,” it can be hard for a woman to tell the nutrients from advertising ploys.

“We are sometimes led to believe that a specific food is healthier than it really is,” says nutritionist Elizabeth Somer, MS, RD, author of Age-proof Your Body. “Or that you need some exotic or expensive form of certain nutrients to gain benefits -- and most of the time that’s not true.”

Moreover -- as happened in the '90s when low fat cookies made everyone temporarily forget about calories -- Somer says some of today’s advertising sways us toward one healthy aspect of a food to keep us from noticing other, less healthy attributes. “A product may advertise itself as ‘no cholesterol’" she says, “but it still can be loaded with bad fats or tons of calories. You have to look at the total food to know for sure.”

NYU nutritionist Tara Miller, MS, RD, agrees. “You have to read the whole label, look at all the ingredients and the portion sizes, before you know for sure just how healthy a food is.”

Or you can let us do the work for you! To help you zero in on the healthiest foods that women can eat, we asked a panel of experts for their advice.

What follows is a description of the six super foods they say every woman needs. While these foods won’t cover all your nutrient bases, incorporating them into your diet as often as possible can help give you a wide range of protection.

Super foods for women: What you need
Super Food # 1: Low-fat yogurt

Goal: 3 to 5 servings a week

What it does: As a health food, yogurt is almost as old as, well, good health itself. But experts say evidence continues to accumulate that reveals its benefits in many new and exciting ways. And not just yogurt. Somer tells WebMD that any fermented dairy product -- including kefir -- contains healthy “probiotics” -- bacteria with the power to protect you in myriad ways.

“There is a suggestion [that yogurt] may decrease the risk of breast cancer,” Somer says. ”And there’s very strong evidence it can reduce problems associated with irritable bowel syndrome and inflammatory digestive tract disorders -- both conditions that impact women more than men.” Additionally, she says, yogurt can help reduce the risk of stomach ulcers and vaginal infections.

Enjoy a cup of yogurt at breakfast, lunch, or snack to help meet the U.S. Dietary Guidelines recommendation for three servings of low fat dairy each day. “It’s loaded with bone-healthy calcium -- something every woman needs more of at every age,” Somer says. One cup of yogurt has about 448 mg of calcium, compared to just 300 for eight ounces of skim milk.

The key, according to Somer, is to choose a low fat yogurt with live cultures -- like Lactobacillus acidophilus. And do check the label, Somer advises. Some store brands may not have the level of cultures found in more established brands.

Also important: Skip the fruit-on-the-bottom or other flavored varieties. “Too much sugar,” says Somer, who also reminds us that, no, those two blueberries on the bottom of the container do not constitute a serving of fruit!

Super Food # 2: Fatty fish -- like salmon, sardines, and mackerel

Goal: 2 to 3 servings every week

What it does: The healthy factor in fish is omega-3 fatty acids, and specifically two types known as DHA (docosahexaenoic acid) and EPA (eicosapentaenoic acid).

“Fatty fish not only plays a vital role in the health of the membrane of every cell in our body, it also helps protect us from a number of key health threats,” says Laurie Tansman, MS, RD, CDN, a nutritionist at Mount Sinai Medical Center in New York.

Some of those threats include heart disease, stroke, hypertension, depression, joint pain, and a number of illnesses linked to inflammation, including lupus and rheumatoid arthritis. Somer says fish may even offer some protection against Alzheimer’s disease.

While many foods -- such as walnuts, flaxseed oil, and some mayonnaise brands -- claim the benefits of omega-3 fatty acids, Somer cautions that only the DHA or EPA forms of omega-3 can be directly used by the body.

“What you get in foods like walnuts and flaxseed oil is an omega-3 acid known as ALA -- alpha-linoleic acid,” says Somer. “And while it’s certainly good for you, it requires a process in the body to convert it to DHA. And that conversion process can be influenced by a variety of individual factors.”

The good news: You are likely to see a wheelbarrow full of new products supplemented with DHA slowly making their way to market in the coming year. Currently, Kellogg is reportedly developing a cereal fortified with DHA, while a company called Nutri-Kids has already launched a DHA fortified ready-to-drink milk product. You can also find eggs fortified with DHA and, says Somer, certain brands of soymilk.

Super Food # 3: Beans

Goal: 3 to 4 servings every week

What it does: Low in fat, beans are a good source of protein and fiber and may have protective effects against heart disease and breast cancer. Beans may also play a role in stabilizing female hormones, says nutritionist Susan Krause, MS, RD.

“Beans have been around so long that most people don’t view them as a fancy new health food,” Krause says. “But in fact, they are among one of the healthiest things a woman can eat.”

In studies published in the International Journal of Cancer, researchers found that beans in general, and lentils in particular, may have some protective effects against breast cancer. In research published in the Archives of Internal Medicine, doctors found a relationship between a lower incidence of cardiovascular disease and a higher intake of legumes. Well known legumes include peas, beans, lentils, and peanuts.
As a source of both soluble and insoluble fiber, Krause says, beans can help lower cholesterol, while their level of a nutrient known as isoflavone can help in the regulation of hormones and may aid with PMS, perimenopause, or menopause symptoms. Although soybeans have among the highest levels of isoflavones, other sources include red clover, kudzu, mung beans, alfalfa sprouts, black cohosh, and chickpeas.

“Beans also contain something called protease inhibitors, which may help protect against breast cancer,” says Krause. Protease inhibitors help slow the division of cancer cells and in this way may prevent tumor formation.

Last but not least, if you are in your reproductive years, beans can give you a steady supply of folic acid -- essential if you should become pregnant.

Super Food # 4: Tomatoes (or watermelon, red grapefruit, red navel oranges)

Goal: 3 to 5 servings each week

What it does: The powerhouse nutrient in all these fruits is lycopene. And, according to Miller, while the headlines touted its protective effects against prostate cancer, more quiet research has shown it has tremendous health benefits for women as well.

“Research is starting to show that lycopene may protect against breast cancer,” Miller says. "And it’s also a powerful antioxidant that can help a woman fight heart disease.”

The very latest research shows it may also help keep you looking younger longer by protecting against UV damage from the sun.

Super Food # 5: Vitamin D fortified low fat milk or orange juice

Goal: At least 400 IUs of vitamin D daily

What it does: “Essential to helping the bones absorb calcium from the gut,” says Somer, “vitamin D helps reduce the risk of osteoporosis and may be vital in reducing the risk of diabetes, multiple sclerosis, and tumors of the breast, colon, and ovary.”

Indeed, recent studies from the University of California San Diego suggest that vitamin D has the potential to prevent up to one–half of all breast, colon, and ovarian cancer in the United States.

Somer tells WebMD that a growing body of research indicates many women may be vitamin D deficient. “A combination of staying out of the sun (which the body uses to manufacture vitamin D) and using sunscreen, which blocks the synthesis of vitamin D, has resulted in many women hitting a dangerously low level of this nutrient,” says Somer.

While Vitamin D is found in salmon, mackerel, tuna, and sardines, experts say fortified foods, such as milk, are the best source.

Super Food # 6: Berries (blueberries, strawberries, raspberries, cranberries)

Goal: 3 to 4 servings every week

What It Does: In a way similar to wine, these fruits may protect your body with powerful anti-cancer nutrients known as anthocyans, which are believed to play a role in cell repair. Krause says research shows anthocyans may decrease the risk of several cancers, including those in the breast and gastrointestinal tract.

“These berries,” says Krause, “are also high in vitamin C and folic acid, which is essential for all women in their childbearing years. And they offer powerful anti-oxidant protection, which not only protects the heart but also may protect against skin aging, from the inside out.” Moreover, she tells WebMD that cranberries may help reduce the risk of urinary tract infections in women, while the nutrient, lutein found in all the berries, can help protect vision.

source: webmd

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Is Work Keeping You From Enjoying the Outdoors?


Is Work Keeping You From Enjoying the Outdoors?

You know that immersing yourself in the natural world can refresh your spirits and lower your stress level. But your demanding job keeps you chained to a computer, and after work there’s a houseful of family responsibilities. You rarely seem to take that nature walk, or spend that leisurely “green hour” so widely recommended for kids and adults alike (learn more at www.greenhour.org).

Retired University of Minnesota psychologist Martha Farrell Erickson, PhD, who serves on the board of the Children and Nature Network, is dedicated to overcoming what founder Richard Louv calls our “nature-deficit disorder.” Erickson’s convinced that even today’s screen-bound, overworked adults can find green time if they’re willing to try a few simple measures.

Stress Source
Too little nature time
The feeling that you’d like to get outside more, for pleasure and health, but can’t seem to make it happen.

Barriers to Overcome
Worries about time, connectivity and productivity. Tech-driven anxiety can keep us indoors, says Erickson. “If we don’t return an email in a couple of hours, we worry that people will think we’re slackers or we’ve fallen off the edge of the earth.”

Cyber-amnesia. Many of us have no idea how much time we’re spending in front of screens, especially in our leisure hours. We lose track of time, so we lose time we could have spent outdoors.

Outdoor anxiety. “A lot of people are afraid to let their kids go outside, because of ’stranger danger,’” says Erickson, “but many younger adults who have grown up indoors aren’t comfortable outside, either.”

Weather worries. If you wait for a perfect day to go outside, you’ll get precious little nature time. “There’s no such thing as bad weather, just inadequate clothing,” says Erickson.

How to Cope
Make nature time part of the workday. Erickson suggests scheduling time to be in nature as a regular part of your routine, and treating it like any other recurring appointment. “Let your friends and associates know ahead of time that you will be away from your desk at a certain time of the day,” she advises. “Set up an auto-reply on your email and a message on your phone answering machine that lets people know when you will be reachable again.”

Try “tamed” nature. If you’re apprehensive about the outdoors, remember that you don’t need to plunge into a trackless forest or buy a lot of fancy protective gear to enjoy nature. “A short walk in a formal park or on a carefully maintained nature trail gives you what you need: access to living, growing things,” says Erickson.

Enjoy a nature “snack.” An outdoor jaunt doesn’t need to be long to be renewing. Even a few moments tending a front-porch container garden can help you feel refreshed and recentered. (For more on this topic, see “The Kitchen Garden.”)

Grab nature time when you’re on the road. Erickson keeps a canvas folding chair in her car and settles into it for 15-minute outdoor breaks when she finds herself near parks or other green spaces.

Get a group together. Erickson takes daily walks with a group of friends around the lake near her Minneapolis home. Being part of a group makes keeping up the outdoor habit — or any new habit — easier, she says.

Stress Solver
Aromatherapy
The art of aromatherapy stimulates senses — and promotes health and relaxation — with nature-based smells.

One of the most effective and pleasant practices to come out of the world of herbal medicine is aromatherapy — the use of aromatic essential oils derived from herbs and other plants to enhance physical and psychological well-being. And, while aromatherapy is available at spas, it’s easy for anyone to incorporate it into daily life, says Pam Conrad, RN, BSN, PGd, CCAP, a certified clinical aromatherapist and medical educator based in Indianapolis, Ind. It can also be used to aid relaxation and recovery in medical settings: Clinical aromatherapy is often used to help mothers relax in childbirth and to help cancer patients cope with chemotherapy nausea.

Origins: Healing with aromatic oils and herbs is ancient — the Greek physician Hippocrates was an advocate — but modern aromatherapy began with French chemist René-Maurice Gattefossé’s work in the 1920s and ’30s. Robert B. Tisserand brought the French techniques to the English-speaking world with his 1978 book, The Art of Aromatherapy, and since then, aromatherapy has thrived here in both clinical and spa settings.

Benefits: “The main benefit of both clinical and nonclinical aromatherapy is relaxation,” says Conrad. “It’s a safe, simple therapy for reducing stress and for promoting all the good things that come with that — and for furthering deep sleep.” Aromatic oils also have stimulating properties. “Mint and rosemary oils are particularly uplifting,” says Conrad. Certain oils have antibacterial and antiviral properties that can help you stay healthy in flu season, and mint, ginger and lavender oils help alleviate nausea.

Simple Steps: Though you can enjoy aromatherapy treatments at most spas today, it’s also easy to self-treat with oils. You can rub a drop or two of a favorite essential oil between your hands, then wave them around for a quick lift, or use a candle-warmed diffuser like the one below to send a continual, warm aroma flow into your room. Essential-oil-laced water spritzers are great for freshening the air without overly perfuming it. There are also a number of diffuser products that plug into a wall outlet or a dashboard cigarette lighter.

Whatever method you choose, be respectful about using aromatherapy anywhere but your personal space, because some people are quite sensitive to fragrances.

Conrad suggests that you first consult a competent aromatherapist or a Web site, like that of the National Association of Holistic Aromatherapy (www.naha.org) or the Alliance of International Aromatherapists (www.alliance-aromatherapists.org), where you can learn which oils do what and how to apply them. There are a few cautions: Use only pure, nonsynthetic, oils; make sure to dilute oils intended for skin application with an unscented carrier oil such as almond or apricot; use externally only; and avoid overuse, which will make the oils less effective. If you are pregnant or have a serious illness, consult with a clinical aromatherapist or your healthcare professional before using.

Aromatherapy Candle Lamp
(Frontier, $12.99)

Want to bring a whiff of nature indoors? Try these beautiful and modern hand-fired ceramic candle lamps. Simply fill the upper well with 1 tablespoon of water, add up to 10 drops of pure, natural essential oils — eucalyptus, juniper berry, cypress (it’s up to you) — and then place a tea light inside the lamp and light it. The flame warms the essential oils and diffuses their aroma throughout your living space. Great for morning and evening relaxation rituals, or to enjoy during a long soak in the tub. Check out www.frontiercoop.com for a variety of colors and shapes.

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